Headache? Backache?

Nannyp · Headache? Backache?

I've just been reminded on another forum about this.

If ever you have a headache, or backache......have a check around and see if there is anything you are not saying/acting on/or asking someone.
Quite often, we hold back from saying what we need to, doing what we need to, or asking what we need to...as we are concerned we may upset/anger another. It seems to risky to say/act/ask.
It's amazing what a relief it is when you do say/act/ask...the pain disappears quite quickly.
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Guest

Thanks for sharing this, it's very interesting. I have had sore shoulders for the last few days, I wonder if this has anything to do with the above ~ or if it is me just spending too much time typing away! xx :zn3

Nannyp

Yes, there is that...I often ache if I've been on the PC too much.

Oh and....if you're having trouble routing around and finding what's being supressed try imagining your 8 years old. Now imagine what you would say/act out/ask if you were using 8 year olds words.

dingsy

Would that primarily be caused by stress? If I'm concerned about something and feel slightly headachy, I tend to assume it's stress. I then tell myself to relax, and it does seem to subside.Depends obviously on the degree of anxiety but there is a connection between the two. Haven't noticed it with backache though-like Shona i tend to assume it comes from spending too long online!

Nannyp

I think I can only provide an example, then you can decide for yourselves.

Back in 2000, I met Mark, and quite soon was spending most of my time at his home. Jo was living in my flat, as she had recently returned after a break up. I would often contribute to shopping at Mark's, or I'd buy us (his son was still at home) a takeaway. However, I hadn't actually come to an agreement about our living conditons etc.
My grandson Tomas was born in Birmingham, Jo and I travelled there and back from Kent in one day to visit, by the time I got back, I could hardly move with locked shoulder and backache...I spent most of the next week at the osteopath.
On the following Saturday, I dropped in at my flat, and Jo asked,"What are you doing in my home?"....she was joking of course, but I went away feeling quite sad, and Mark and I had a difficult time out shopping, with me losing him and feeling very upset. When we got home to his, I realised that I acutally felt homeless....I was living out of a bag at his, had nowhere for my clothes, and nowhere to go if I wanted my own space.
So...I plucked up courage (that's how it felt) and discussed my needs, both financially and emotionally.
Having done this, within hours, my aches and pains had gone!
This is the biggest example I have.....but I always know when there is something worrying me, or putting me under pressure, as my back aches.

Hope that helps :D

mummymelly

Interesting Kathy. Will try that next time I get a headache.

dingsy

Yes, I see what you're meaning. I do tend also, to shrug off my aches and pains, almost making light of them and attributing a lot of niggly type pains to my advancing years

. But if I examined things more closely, I wonder if they did coincide with anxious times,or when I'm bottling things up-I'm sure they would!

dragonfly

I think i would end up with face ache... if i said what i was thinking!!
(people slappin it)

angelfruit · Re: Headache? Backache?

Nannyp

Amazing :D
It's just reminded me of when I was around 14.
My Mum for ages was taking Lithium, and seemed to have an anxiety disorder (didn;t know that at the time) and was constantly thinking she had a lump in her throat.
I guess there things she wasn't saying....and that was the norm for our family.
Pleased you have balance now Dawn

angelfruit

Guest

Blimey, this forum is better than any group therapy I've been to!!

NannyP - how right this is! Now, I know that my back problems are at least in part physical (I have a severely "slipped" disc), but some could well be "emotional". Oh lordy!!

When my first marriage was coming to an end, I suffered, for the first time in my life, from asthma - triggered by the stress. I also had increasingly-bad migraines, several throaty problems, and palpitations.

At the moment, I'm suffering tight shoulders, and (thanks to this thread) I now know what this is all about. Without going into detail, it's all about that fine balance between "keeping quiet" (and suffering physically), or becoming "a nag". Not easy ...

angelfruit

It's easy for us to ignore the one thing that we really should take notice of - our bodies! They tell us so much and do so much that it is sometimes easy to treat them like a loved one, and neglect them because they are always there.

I am trying much harder to listen to my body "talking" to me and also to treat it with a it more respect eg less fat, more water, being kinder to it I suppose.

Sounds silly now that I've written that - but I guess you know what I mean.

Dawn

Hecateh

So true Dawn. - although recently I've been treating my body to so much exercise it's complaining

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