MissMuppet
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My positive thinking!I don't know what has happened but since moving 4 weeks ago I have been very happy! I'm not working, which could have something to do with it but I feel as though I am coping with everything better and not feeling so unhappy with myself.
I have made a new friend and I seem to be managing my money better and everything seems to be coming together. I am more confident and I have less worries...
Maybe I've finally grown up, well I am 30 now after all! 
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Hecateh
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That is so good to hear.
When you are down it is so easy to view everything as negative. When you feel better in yourself it is far easier to put things into perspective and get on with living and enjoying life.
It's great you've found a friend as that can be harder to do when older.
Most of my friends are in relationships and though that doesn't affectt he friendship it does limit the things we do together.
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MissMuppet
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Well my friend is in a relationship but her partner lives in St Albans so she doesn't see him much... she seems up for a good time, we both went clubbing on Friday night and it was like we were both single girls out having a laugh!
Hopefully my happiness will last a while and along the way I might find a nice man as well... who knows! :q3:
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Hecateh
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You may - and doing positive affirmation about the type of man you want (physically but more importantly personality wise) could help BUT don't make that the sole focus. It is a proven fact that generally single women are healthier than attached ones.
We prioritise ourselves more, we take better care of ourselves and we don't spend our time pandering to their needs or ego. - None of that applies of course if you find the 'right' one.
having a man around can be nice but it aint the be all and end all of life. (Now there's a phrase I haven't used on a forum before - it's something my mother used to say but it does look funny written down)
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MissMuppet
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I agree with you Helen, sometimes being with someone (especially the wrong person) makes you more unhappy than being single. I must admit I am usually happier when I'm on my own... but hopefully someone will eventually come along that can make me just as happy! Until then me and Alfie will get along just fine... :zn2
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dingsy
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It's so good to hear how well life is treating you at the moment. You've dealt with huge amounts of stress in a short space of time, so it's really good to see you coming out the other side.
As for the nice man-I keep telling you I have a very eligible 21 year old who is free at the moment!!
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MissMuppet
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You better send him over this way then Elaine... would you mind him moving to Folkestone or would I have to move to Devon?
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Nannyp
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Cradle snatcher
It's so good to know you're feeling so good Jo...unemployment suits you 
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dingsy
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He wants to return to Scotland one day-probably at about the same time as Brian and I hope to head back (the timescales are meshing quite nicely).
So, Devon would only need to be a short term measure, and then you could have Edinburgh in all it's glory (plus it's annual book festival.....)
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MissMuppet
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You should be telling Elaine off for offering her youngster of son to me...
I've never been to Edinburgh, so not sure what I will be letting myself in for.
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dingsy
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| MissMuppet wrote: | You should be telling Elaine off for offering her youngster of son to me...
I've never been to Edinburgh, so not sure what I will be letting myself in for. |
I'm sure you'd be a m.i.l's dream daughter in law!
As to Edinburgh-it's a fantastic city:just wish we'd appreciated it more when we lived there. But that's so typical of life in general at times-don't know what you have until it's not there any more...
Phew, a bit philosophical for first thing in the morning!
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MissMuppet
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That's exactly how I have felt about living by the sea... I moved away 4 years ago and I did miss is quite a bit, now I'm back though so I'm very happy! :q3:
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Guest
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That's good to hear. But hey try not to grow up! I am planning to stay young or if necessary grow old disgracefully and embarrass the children as much as psosisble lol
I think you have made a positive step and you are feeling the benefits of making that importanat decision. Then after making one positive step, it's easier feel positive about handling other stuff. Good for you!
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Hecateh
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Embarrassing the children is part of a parent's job descriptions - it's when we get them back for the embaaraassing questins and comments they made in pucblic when they were little.
"Mummy, Why is that woman wearing a silly hat"
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blueflower
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| Hecateh wrote: | Embarrassing the children is part of a parent's job descriptions - it's when we get them back for the embaaraassing questins and comments they made in pucblic when they were little.
"Mummy, Why is that woman wearing a silly hat" |
Agreed, it great fun being an embassment sometimes and being that woman in the silly hat. 
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